How Aware Are You..?

“Be mature enough to understand that you have toxic traits too. It’s not always the other person.”

Hey Beautiful!

I saw the above quote while lurking on the ‘Gram, and it was a gut punch.

We have become so accustomed to blaming the other party at the demise of a relationship, that we completely overlook what we may have done or didn’t do. And that can be attributed to a number of factors which include, but are not limited to:

  • Victim mentalities
  • Lack of self awareness
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August Meetup: Jazzin’ At The Shedd

Hey Beautiful!

Some time ago during #Confessionsovertea, a few of my Chicagoland Sister Friends suggested that we have a meetup. But with so many different options to choose from, and by me being a true, indecisive Libra, it took awhile for me to make up mind. And after several months of going back and forth with myself, I finally decided that on Wednesday, August 1st, we would get jazzy and head to Jazzin’ at the Shedd.

Now for my non-Chicago residents, Jazzin’ at the Shedd, is an outdoor, live jazz…

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Share Your Story

Because I never really told you all how The Art of Single came to be..

Hey Beautiful!

Story Time!!

So I cannot tell you how therapeutic blogging has been for me. Not only has it opened doors, but it’s also helped me to overcome many of my internal struggles. See once upon a time, I didn’t know what it was to be transparent. The thought of revealing deep secrets about myself was foreign because I was always ashamed and afraid of what people might think.

But it got a point where I couldn’t hold it in any longer.

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Badly Raised Men

“Women are not rehabilitation services for badly raised boys.”  – Fatima Zaha Umar

Hey Beautiful!

So a few weeks ago, one of my followers posted the above quote, which struck a chord with me, and then suggested that I make it a #Confessionsovertea topic (my live, IG girl chat that takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST). And I couldn’t have agreed with her more.

The reality is we have all encountered men who were so impolite, so inconsiderate, so selfish, we couldn’t help but to wonder, “Who raised you?” These badly raised…

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But Aren’t You Married…?

Hey Beautiful!

Have you ever encountered a man who gave off such odd vibes, you had no choice but to ask, “But aren’t you married?”

Now sis, over the years, I have had the unfortunate experience of unknowingly dating and dealing with married men. And although I’m no expert, based on my observations, I’ve compiled a list of things you need to know, so that you don’t find yourself in that same predicament. Or if you do, what to look out for so that you can get out before getting in too deep.

So without…

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Eff Boys Pt. Deux..

Hey Beautiful!

So after re-reading my previous post on Eff Boys, and thinking about all of the ones that I have encountered, it dawned on me that I did you guys a disservice by not giving you the full run-down. Eff Boys come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, colors, and flavors. They can be dope boys, mama’s boys, church boys, business men, athletes, entertainers, and so on and so on.

An Eff Boy is a master manipulator. Someone who will walk into your life disguised as a…

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Eff Boys..

Hey Beautiful!

You know, it’s been quite some time since I gave you all a Men & Dating confession. Partially because I cut myself off from dating. But as of recently, I have decided that it’s time for me to get my tail back out there and meet some men. Mainly because I’m writer and need more material, but also because I am too damn cute to not be going out on dates.

And I’m secretly side-eyeing, cringing, and lowering my head in disgust at almost every guy I’m about to encounter.

Truth be told…

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Do you know your worth?

Hey Beautiful!

I need to ask you a question.. Do you know your worth?

And I’m not talking material possessions either.

I can only imagine how much you’ve spent on hair, makeup, clothing, accessories, etc. In fact, if we were to add up how much has gone towards any of those items over the years, I’m sure your material wealth would more than likely be equivalent to that of some of the highest grossing celebs.

But I’m talking self-worth.

Are you aware of your value and how precious you are? The reality…

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Black Girl Healing

First Date Question: “How aware of you are your traumas and suppressed emotions and tell me about how you are actively working to heal them before you try to project that shit on me.” – Unknown

Hey Beautiful!

I know I’m not the only one who has seen the above quote floating around the social medias. And I also know that I am not the only one who has seen the above quote, and immediately side-eyed every guy from my past, present, and sometimes future.

But do we ever stop and ask ourselves that question?

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Boundaries..

Hey Beautiful!

Major. Breakthrough. Alert!

I had an experience recently that tested my boundaries, and can proudly say that I stood firm in my “no”. And when asked why, I confidently said, “Because I said so.” Naturally the person who was testing my boundaries, was unwilling to accept my explanation, but it didn’t matter. My reasoning was good enough, my no was firm, and no amount of persistence was going to get me to change my mind. They were just going to have to deal with it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It wasn’t always…

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