32 Truths, From Chapter 32

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For the past few years, I typically spend the last remaining days before my upcoming birthday making a list of lessons that I’ve learned. Over time, I have listed things like rejection was as integral to my growth as acceptance, it’s okay to not be okay, breaks are good, but knowing when to stop is better, pumpkin spice isn’t so bad, and my personal favorite, 31 is not 21. And with each lesson, I not only carry it into my new year, but try to share with others in some way.

This year will…

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I Never Knew..

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Please enjoy the below poem entitled, “I Never Knew“, submitted by guest contributor, Ms. Schenita White.

xoxo, Racquel

 

I never knew what it meant to be a woman

until I heard stories about what girls did to boys

under bleachers in gyms

and in bathroom stalls

I never knew what it meant to be a woman

Until I smelled the aroma of carrot cake and pound cake

Emanating from my grandmothers oven

I never knew what it meant to be a woman

Until I saw mother after countless mother

Raise hordes of children without the steady influence of a man

I never knew what it meant to be a woman

Until…

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I Prayed Me Away..

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You ever dealt with someone for a period of time, whether long or short, and just didn’t know how to let them go?

That was me.

In the past, I have gone against my better judgement, dealing with men that I knew I probably shouldn’t have. Knowing full well that things would never manifest into what I had hoped they would be. But I found myself so wrapped up in them, I stayed. Holding on to a sliver of hope that they would one day prove me wrong.

And I got egg on my…

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How Aware Are You..?

“Be mature enough to understand that you have toxic traits too. It’s not always the other person.”

Hey Beautiful!

I saw the above quote while lurking on the ‘Gram, and it was a gut punch.

We have become so accustomed to blaming the other party at the demise of a relationship, that we completely overlook what we may have done or didn’t do. And that can be attributed to a number of factors which include, but are not limited to:

  • Victim mentalities
  • Lack of self awareness
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August Meetup: Jazzin’ At The Shedd

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Some time ago during #Confessionsovertea, a few of my Chicagoland Sister Friends suggested that we have a meetup. But with so many different options to choose from, and by me being a true, indecisive Libra, it took awhile for me to make up mind. And after several months of going back and forth with myself, I finally decided that on Wednesday, August 1st, we would get jazzy and head to Jazzin’ at the Shedd.

Now for my non-Chicago residents, Jazzin’ at the Shedd, is an outdoor, live jazz…

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Share Your Story

Because I never really told you all how The Art of Single came to be..

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Story Time!!

So I cannot tell you how therapeutic blogging has been for me. Not only has it opened doors, but it’s also helped me to overcome many of my internal struggles. See once upon a time, I didn’t know what it was to be transparent. The thought of revealing deep secrets about myself was foreign because I was always ashamed and afraid of what people might think.

But it got a point where I couldn’t hold it in any longer.

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Badly Raised Men

“Women are not rehabilitation services for badly raised boys.”  – Fatima Zaha Umar

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So a few weeks ago, one of my followers posted the above quote, which struck a chord with me, and then suggested that I make it a #Confessionsovertea topic (my live, IG girl chat that takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST). And I couldn’t have agreed with her more.

The reality is we have all encountered men who were so impolite, so inconsiderate, so selfish, we couldn’t help but to wonder, “Who raised you?” These badly raised…

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But Aren’t You Married…?

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Have you ever encountered a man who gave off such odd vibes, you had no choice but to ask, “But aren’t you married?”

Now sis, over the years, I have had the unfortunate experience of unknowingly dating and dealing with married men. And although I’m no expert, based on my observations, I’ve compiled a list of things you need to know, so that you don’t find yourself in that same predicament. Or if you do, what to look out for so that you can get out before getting in too deep.

So without…

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Eff Boys Pt. Deux..

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So after re-reading my previous post on Eff Boys, and thinking about all of the ones that I have encountered, it dawned on me that I did you guys a disservice by not giving you the full run-down. Eff Boys come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, colors, and flavors. They can be dope boys, mama’s boys, church boys, business men, athletes, entertainers, and so on and so on.

An Eff Boy is a master manipulator. Someone who will walk into your life disguised as a…

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Eff Boys..

Hey Beautiful!

You know, it’s been quite some time since I gave you all a Men & Dating confession. Partially because I cut myself off from dating. But as of recently, I have decided that it’s time for me to get my tail back out there and meet some men. Mainly because I’m writer and need more material, but also because I am too damn cute to not be going out on dates.

And I’m secretly side-eyeing, cringing, and lowering my head in disgust at almost every guy I’m about to encounter.

Truth be told…

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