Badly Raised Men

“Women are not rehabilitation services for badly raised boys.”  – Fatima Zaha Umar

Hey Beautiful!

So a few weeks ago, one of my followers posted the above quote, which struck a chord with me, and then suggested that I make it a #Confessionsovertea topic (my live, IG girl chat that takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST). And I couldn’t have agreed with her more.

The reality is we have all encountered men who were so impolite, so inconsiderate, so selfish, we couldn’t help but to wonder, “Who raised you?” These badly raised…

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But Aren’t You Married…?

Hey Beautiful!

Have you ever encountered a man who gave off such odd vibes, you had no choice but to ask, “But aren’t you married?”

Now sis, over the years, I have had the unfortunate experience of unknowingly dating and dealing with married men. And although I’m no expert, based on my observations, I’ve compiled a list of things you need to know, so that you don’t find yourself in that same predicament. Or if you do, what to look out for so that you can get out before getting in too deep.

So without…

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Eff Boys Pt. Deux..

Hey Beautiful!

So after re-reading my previous post on Eff Boys, and thinking about all of the ones that I have encountered, it dawned on me that I did you guys a disservice by not giving you the full run-down. Eff Boys come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, colors, and flavors. They can be dope boys, mama’s boys, church boys, business men, athletes, entertainers, and so on and so on.

An Eff Boy is a master manipulator. Someone who will walk into your life disguised as a…

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Eff Boys..

Hey Beautiful!

You know, it’s been quite some time since I gave you all a Men & Dating confession. Partially because I cut myself off from dating. But as of recently, I have decided that it’s time for me to get my tail back out there and meet some men. Mainly because I’m writer and need more material, but also because I am too damn cute to not be going out on dates.

And I’m secretly side-eyeing, cringing, and lowering my head in disgust at almost every guy I’m about to encounter.

Truth be told…

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Red Flags in Dating

Hey Beautiful!

Ok, first off, if you haven’t joined my live, weekly girl chat, “Confessions Over Tea”, you are missing out! It takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST on Instagram (@theartofsingle for those who aren’t following).

So, last week’s discussion was on “Red Flags”, and I really felt it was important to do an accompanying blog post for those who weren’t in attendance.

Red flags in my opinion are obvious signs about a person, flat out telling us who they are, and to Run. Like. Hell. But oftentimes, we choose to excuse or ignore…

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CommunicationSHIP

(kahm-myoon-eh-kay-shun-ship)

noun

def.

  1. Constantly calling and texting.
  2. Never actually dating or going anywhere… literally and figuratively.
  3. Waste. Of. Time.

Hey Beautiful,

Let’s talk CommunicationSHIPS. Whilst doing my casual scrolling through Instagram, I stumbled upon a post from one of my girlfriends, introducing me to this term, and almost threw my phone.

I mean let’s face it, we’ve all been in one. You meet a guy and he texts and calls consistently. Never passes on an opportunity to declare how much he misses you, or to shower you with adoration. He essentially…

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Male. Sex. Worker.

Hey Beautiful!

I’ll let you process that one for a second before I begin……..

You ready for this?

While on the phone with a guy not too long ago, the topic of “sliding in DMs” came up. And he wanted to know the wildest DM conversation I ever had. And without hesitation, I told him about the Male. Sex. Worker. or M.S.W.

Because I have nothing to hide, and am pretty much an open book, my Instagram account is public. So naturally I have individuals from all walks of life that follow me.

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#TinderTales Pt. 5: Sheldon

Hey Beautiful!

Well, I have reached the end of this series, and saved what I think is the best for last *wink*.

Aesthetically, I’d like to think that I have a certain type when it comes to men. I tend to go by the four B’s: Big. Black. Bald. Bearded. And although Sheldon was more on the fair-skinned side, he met three out of my four, so I was instantly attracted to him.

Like all Tinder Dates, Sheldon and I began conversing over the app, before exchanging phone numbers. We decided…

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#TinderTales Pt. 4: Stanford

Hey Beautiful!

So while we’re on the subject of Broken Man Syndrome (BMS), allow me to introduce you to my second Tinder Date. Stanford.

It wasn’t long after I’d matched with Stanford, that we exchanged numbers and had a real conversation. We would sit on the phone for hours talking about everything. He explained to me that he was a single father with full custody of his son.

Stanford and his son’s mother hadn’t had the best relationship, and she ghosted shortly after their son was born. He…

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#TinderTales Pt. 3: Brandon

Hey Beautiful!

I know, I know. I am extremely late with this. Please accept my apologies. Life just got in the way, but I’m back with the first of my three Tinder Dates.

If you can recall from the second part of this series, I mentioned Brandon: The Sex Addict. Now you’re probably raising your eyebrows, asking yourself what makes a person a sex addict and, how I knew he was one. Little known fact about me, I used to work for an organization that certified therapists in sex…

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