How Aware Are You..?

“Be mature enough to understand that you have toxic traits too. It’s not always the other person.”

Hey Beautiful!

I saw the above quote while lurking on the ‘Gram, and it was a gut punch.

We have become so accustomed to blaming the other party at the demise of a relationship, that we completely overlook what we may have done or didn’t do. And that can be attributed to a number of factors which include, but are not limited to:

  • Victim mentalities
  • Lack of self awareness
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Badly Raised Men

“Women are not rehabilitation services for badly raised boys.”  – Fatima Zaha Umar

Hey Beautiful!

So a few weeks ago, one of my followers posted the above quote, which struck a chord with me, and then suggested that I make it a #Confessionsovertea topic (my live, IG girl chat that takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST). And I couldn’t have agreed with her more.

The reality is we have all encountered men who were so impolite, so inconsiderate, so selfish, we couldn’t help but to wonder, “Who raised you?” These badly raised…

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But Aren’t You Married…?

Hey Beautiful!

Have you ever encountered a man who gave off such odd vibes, you had no choice but to ask, “But aren’t you married?”

Now sis, over the years, I have had the unfortunate experience of unknowingly dating and dealing with married men. And although I’m no expert, based on my observations, I’ve compiled a list of things you need to know, so that you don’t find yourself in that same predicament. Or if you do, what to look out for so that you can get out before getting in too deep.

So without…

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Eff Boys Pt. Deux..

Hey Beautiful!

So after re-reading my previous post on Eff Boys, and thinking about all of the ones that I have encountered, it dawned on me that I did you guys a disservice by not giving you the full run-down. Eff Boys come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, colors, and flavors. They can be dope boys, mama’s boys, church boys, business men, athletes, entertainers, and so on and so on.

An Eff Boy is a master manipulator. Someone who will walk into your life disguised as a…

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Do you know your worth?

Hey Beautiful!

I need to ask you a question.. Do you know your worth?

And I’m not talking material possessions either.

I can only imagine how much you’ve spent on hair, makeup, clothing, accessories, etc. In fact, if we were to add up how much has gone towards any of those items over the years, I’m sure your material wealth would more than likely be equivalent to that of some of the highest grossing celebs.

But I’m talking self-worth.

Are you aware of your value and how precious you are? The reality…

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Black Girl Healing

First Date Question: “How aware of you are your traumas and suppressed emotions and tell me about how you are actively working to heal them before you try to project that shit on me.” – Unknown

Hey Beautiful!

I know I’m not the only one who has seen the above quote floating around the social medias. And I also know that I am not the only one who has seen the above quote, and immediately side-eyed every guy from my past, present, and sometimes future.

But do we ever stop and ask ourselves that question?

The…

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Boundaries..

Hey Beautiful!

Major. Breakthrough. Alert!

I had an experience recently that tested my boundaries, and can proudly say that I stood firm in my “no”. And when asked why, I confidently said, “Because I said so.” Naturally the person who was testing my boundaries, was unwilling to accept my explanation, but it didn’t matter. My reasoning was good enough, my no was firm, and no amount of persistence was going to get me to change my mind. They were just going to have to deal with it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It wasn’t always…

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Red Flags in Dating

Hey Beautiful!

Ok, first off, if you haven’t joined my live, weekly girl chat, “Confessions Over Tea”, you are missing out! It takes place every Wednesday at 8pm CST on Instagram (@theartofsingle for those who aren’t following).

So, last week’s discussion was on “Red Flags”, and I really felt it was important to do an accompanying blog post for those who weren’t in attendance.

Red flags in my opinion are obvious signs about a person, flat out telling us who they are, and to Run. Like. Hell. But oftentimes, we choose to excuse or ignore…

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Unsettled..

“Because what we’re not going to do, is hold on to mediocre friendships, overextend ourselves to things and people who don’t appreciate us, and settle for subpar wine.” – Racquel Coral

Hey Beautiful!

Can we talk about settling for a minute?

If you’ve been joining me for my weekly girl chat, “Confessions Over Tea” (every Wednesday at 8pm CST on Instagram Live *wink*), one of the topics was settling. And I guess it really touched a nerve with some people, because we ended up talking about it for two hours that night. In addition to me…

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Broken Woman Syndrome

“A broken woman should stay single. She is angry and unable to give or process what a man needs as she is still hurt.” – unknown

Hey Beautiful!

That’ll preach…

So let’s talk Broken Woman Syndrome or BWS.

Now as much as it pains me to have to break down the broken woman, after my post on Broken Man Syndrome, I would be remiss if I didn’t. That and, little known fact, part of the reason why I started The Art of Single, was to not only…

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