So after re-reading my previous post on Eff Boys, and thinking about all of the ones that I have encountered, it dawned on me that I did you guys a disservice by not giving you the full run-down. Eff Boys come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, colors, and flavors. They can be dope boys, mama’s boys, church boys, business men, athletes, entertainers, and so on and so on.
An Eff Boy is a master manipulator. Someone who will walk into your life disguised as a seemingly good dude. He presents himself as the man you’ve always wanted, but in reality, his sole purpose is to confuse the shit out of you and have you constantly asking yourself what went wrong. These crafty little suckers never accept responsibility for what they have done, because they have successfully been able to trick women into thinking that they are always the ones at fault.
They will run up your credit. Crash your car. Rob you of your youth. Eat you out of house and home. And somehow flip it to make it seem as if you’re the problem.
And when you go to confront them on their mess, they are quick to say things like:
“Nah that’s you.”
“I never said that.”
“Come on man, don’t be like that.”
“We could have had ___.”
An Eff Boy will have you thinking that you are the only one for them. Only to walk out once they have gotten what they wanted.
And an experienced Eff Boy will pop, lock and stop in and out of your life, taking what he needs and leaving you empty.
They tend to use lines like the following to wiggle their way back in:
“I miss you.”
“You never have time for me.”
“Damn, I see you just forgot about me.”
And sadly, when we see their names pop up with any of the above, we take them back. This is because they have showed us their good qualities, which in turn has caused us to overlook all the bad.
Breaking things off with an Eff Boy is never easy. They don’t take no for an answer. And just when you think they have exhausted all of their best moves, they come at you with some new shit, that has you falling back into the same, sad cycle.
It takes one of three ways to rid yourself of Eff Boys:
- Power Move – This is when you beat them at their own game, and take back your power. What makes Eff Boys so successful is that they have successfully figured out a way to maintain control of the situation. Once you strip them of it, they become powerless and move on to the next young lady, whose life they are about to mess up.
- Block and Delete – Sometimes you just have to put your foot down, force yourself to delete the text thread, call log, and entry of his in your contacts, and then block his tail. Yes it can be difficult to do, but if you want them gone, you have to go to this extreme.
- Ask For Something – Most Eff Boys are extremely selfish and don’t like to give up anything. The minute you start begging, they tend to gradually fade into the background, never to be seen or heard from again.
And darling, because we are smack in the middle of summer, also known as “Eff Boy Season”, your chances of running into these charismatic creatures are at an all time high. So please, take heed to my advice and do what you need to do to protect yourself and those around you.
Because after all, this Eff Boy Epidemic has gotten far out of control. And it’s time to force them to level up to become the upstanding men that we know they can be.